Let me start by saying Happy New Year!! I know many of us have made New Years Resolutions this year to be “better” but just in case you didn’t know you are perfect just the way you are! Yes, it is great to reflect on the previous year and strive to be the best possible version of yourself. But often when we do this we forget to be kind to ourselves.

Instead of resolutions, I like to start my New Year by making more of promises to myself that I can be lenient with.  That way if I mess up or am not perfect (which we all know no one is) I don’t end up beating myself up for it or feeling guilty.

My Promises

My promises to myself are more often than not more internal promises to myself and less external promises. Because to me how you feel outweighs how you look or what others may think.

Which leads me to my New Years Promises to myself.  As many of you may know I’ve already made promises to myself for my 25th year of life, but I would like to explain some of those/add some.

To start I promise to be kinder to myself.  I promise to do my best to not beat myself up when I feel lazy or tired and not want to do anything.  I promise to be kind and not judge myself because I’m doing the best that I can.

I promise to do more things that make me feel good. Whether it’s eating healthier food and exercising for more energy or just dancing in the rain.  I promise that I will do things that just bring me pure ecstasy and joy this year and for the rest of my life.

I promise to set boundaries for myself and the people in my life and to keep them.  No matter who it is in my life. Healthy boundaries are a MUST.

I promise to let go of the people who don’t respect me, who are unhealthy in my life, who aren’t moving forward with me.

I promise to care less about what other people think! It’s my life and not theirs! I will do what makes me happy regardless of whether it’s “cool” or “appropriate” or what society expects of me or what anyone else finds “acceptable.” To not look for anyone else’s approval but my own.  I’m living my life and no one else!

I promise to put myself first.  To do what’s best for me in the long run.  To not put any man before me.

I promise to know my self-worth.  To remember that I am enough and that I’m perfect just the way I am.  I promise to remind others that they are enough and perfect the way they are as often as possible.

I promise to work hard to reach my goals and not be discouraged when I don’t reach them as quickly as I may like.

I promise to not compare myself to others.  We are all on our own journey and our own path and to compare myself to someone else is simply not fair to me.  To strive to be a better person than I was yesterday and not better than anyone else.

Above all, I promise to LOVE myself forever and always regardless of any mistakes I may make along the way.

I hope you all make promises to yourself to do the same! I hope you all have a magnificent year! I hope you remember you all are loved, cared for, that you are enough, that if there is a tough time going on in your life that it will pass, and that if you need a friend whether I know you are not I’ve got an ear to listen.


I wish you all the Happiest of New Years!